Sharing Unplanned Pregnancy News with the Child's Father


Navigating the emotional landscape that comes with an unplanned pregnancy can often feel like an uphill climb, especially when it comes to having important conversations. One significant discussion is sharing the news with the child's father. This conversation can seem daunting, but it's essential to remember that it's entirely normal to feel a range of emotions and uncertainties about this dialogue. To help guide you through this process, we've outlined several steps that you can consider.

Gather Your Thoughts First

Before engaging in a conversation about your pregnancy with the child's father, allow yourself some time to understand and process your feelings about the situation. This is a significant life event, and it's crucial to come to terms with your own emotions and thoughts before trying to express them to someone else. In this time of reflection, consider what you want for yourself, your future, and your relationship with the child's father.


At iChoose Pregnancy Support Services, we understand how essential this self-reflection period is. That's why we are here to help you sort through these complex emotions and provide the support you need during this time. You're not alone in this journey, and we encourage you to contact us if you need someone to talk to or if you're seeking advice.

Plan What You Want to Say

Once you've had some time to reflect and you feel ready to discuss the situation, carefully consider and plan out what you want to say. Keep in mind that communication is key. Every person is unique and reacts differently to unexpected news, so knowing his personality and typical responses can aid you in preparing for this conversation. It's also beneficial to think about the questions he might ask and prepare some thoughtful answers.

Choose the Right Time and Place

Where and when you have this discussion can significantly influence its progression. Select a quiet, private environment where you won't be interrupted, and ensure it's a time when he isn't distracted or stressed. This careful consideration allows for a more focused and sincere dialogue.

Be Open and Honest

Honesty fosters trust, and it's particularly important when communicating about something as significant as an unplanned pregnancy. Don't be afraid to be open about your feelings, fears, and uncertainties. This transparency can help him understand your perspective and can set the stage for a more in-depth and meaningful conversation about what comes next.

Discuss the Future

After sharing the news, the next natural step is discussing future options. This discussion may cover your thoughts about the pregnancy, potential parenting, adoption, and what kind of support you might need from him. Whether you need emotional assistance, financial help, or shared decision-making, it's important to express your needs clearly.


At iChoose Pregnancy Support Services, we offer a wide range of resources to help you understand all of your options. If you're feeling overwhelmed about these decisions, consider scheduling a free appointment with us. Our team can provide guidance, support, and factual information to help you navigate your choices.

Expect a Range of Reactions

Everyone processes surprising news differently, and it's vital to be patient and understanding of the child's father's reaction. He might be shocked, confused, upset, or even angry. Keep in mind that his immediate response might not reflect his feelings once he's had time to process the information. Giving him space and time to digest the news is a respectful way to handle the situation.

Offer Resources

Lastly, remember to share resources that can help him understand the situation more effectively. We are ready to support not only expectant mothers at iChoose but also fathers. Encourage him to reach out for guidance or to seek additional resources.


An unplanned pregnancy is a significant life event, but remember, you're not alone. At iChoose, we are here to support you every step of the way. We encourage you to reach out to us whenever you need guidance, information, or simply to talk to someone who understands.

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