Telling Your Parents About Your Unplanned Pregnancy


Finding out you're unexpectedly pregnant can stir up a whirlwind of emotions. It's common to feel a mix of excitement, confusion, fear, and even guilt. A significant concern many young women share is the daunting task of telling their parents about their unplanned pregnancy.


Here at iChoose Pregnancy Support Services, we understand how difficult this conversation can be. We want to reassure you that you're not alone. This blog post will offer some guidance on how to navigate this conversation, reminding you that support is always available to you.

Take Time to Process

Before sharing the news, it's essential to take time for yourself to process what you're feeling. An unplanned pregnancy can bring a surge of emotions—fear, shock, confusion, even a sense of guilt or shame. It can be overwhelmingly complicated, and it's crucial first to understand your feelings and thoughts. You might be grappling with various options and unsure of the best path forward. At this critical juncture, consider reaching out to the compassionate team at iChoose for help. We’re here to provide you with information, resources, and a listening ear to assist and educate you in navigating this challenging time. If you need someone to talk to, you can contact us anytime.

Prepare for the Conversation

Your next step is to carefully plan what you want to say. Each family dynamic is unique—you know your parents best. Take into account their personalities, beliefs, values, and typical reactions when crafting your message. Keep in mind that they may have many questions, concerns, or fears about your situation. This preparation will help you maintain calm and confidence during the discussion.

Choose the Right Time and Place

Timing and setting can significantly impact the conversation's outcome. It's essential to find a quiet, comfortable space where you won't be interrupted. This will ensure privacy and allow you and your parents to express your feelings freely. Moreover, choose a time when they aren't rushed or stressed. The conversation about your unplanned pregnancy is a significant one, and it deserves due time and attention.

Be Honest and Direct

When you're ready, approach the conversation with honesty and directness. Articulate your situation clearly, even though it may be challenging. Expressing yourself openly and honestly allows for clear communication, reducing the chance of misunderstandings. Remember, it's entirely normal to be nervous. Take deep breaths, speak at your own pace, and give yourself grace. You're undertaking a courageous step.

Ask for Support

After sharing the news, it's important to articulate what kind of support you need from your parents. This may be emotional support, financial assistance, or help with decision-making. Each family and situation is unique, and your needs will reflect that. Being transparent about your needs can help your parents understand how they can best support you during this time.

Prepare for a Variety of Reactions

Reactions to the news of an unplanned pregnancy can vary widely—from relief to anger, disappointment, or fear. Understand that their initial response might not reflect their feelings once they've had time to process the news. Emotions might be high, and it's essential to give them time and space to digest the information. Be patient with them, as you'd want them to be patient with you. Remember, everyone processes surprise news differently, and initial reactions can change over time.

Reach Out for Additional Support

Remember, you don't have to navigate this alone. At iChoose, we provide a safe, non-judgmental space to explore your feelings and options. You can schedule an appointment with us anytime. We're here to offer support and guidance.


Sharing news of an unplanned pregnancy with your parents can be an emotional journey. However, remember that many women have walked this path before you, and support is always available.


If you need any help during this time, don't hesitate to contact us at our Clayton or Knightdale locations. We're here to help you every step of the way. Your well-being is our priority, and we're committed to providing you with the support you need.


In the end, it's your life, your body, and your choice. Take your time, trust your instincts, and remember: you are stronger than you think.

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